|We bought our rings from Ireland off eBay. True (image by Anna)|
Life is uncertain, eat dessert first.
~ Ernestine Ulmer
|Jen came all the way from California to join us (image by Anna)|
|So did Simon but hey, that was less unexpected lol (image by Anna)|
March is a good month for me; it contains both our wedding anniversary and my birthday. What usually happens is the Brashness starts buying me gifts in January that are all labelled either birthday or anniversary presents, and I forget until the day before and make him a batch of ice cream. Funnily enough he's mostly happy with that arrangement.
|We had cupcakes before it was fashionable|
The Brashness and I met online, a long time ago and way before it was fashionable and people admitted to it. It was a clunky, awkward way to meet potential suitors, and I kissed a lot of frogs before I found my prince. Plenty of toads too. It wasn't all bad, in fact I enjoyed almost every minute of the discovery: I learnt a lot about the human condition and refined my ability to lie eloquently.
|Our 'first look'|
|A dog blessing|
The rest, as they say, is history, and you know full well bloggers there's no history here unless it's got pixels.
|I whinged about the price of these until I saw the|
size of them on the day
My birthday and our anniversary are actually the same day; we got married on my 40th birthday. This was part good timing and part design; we wanted a small celebration without a lot of fuss. It started off intended to be a surprise wedding then we had to move the venue so the gig was up, as we chose to move it to my family home and in retrospect this was always going to be the perfect location.
|Jen supplied the handfasting cord which is incredibly intricate and includes|
a locket and pieces of lapis lazuli woven into the cords
Some fussing then ensued, mainly about guest numbers. It was important to us to be married, for a whole bunch of reasons not the least of which was protecting each other legally through a contracted relationship. To have a wedding was less important, so we shared it with the bare essentials - 30 people, including us, mostly family and a handful of friends. We had a handfasting, and also met privately before the ceremony and walked in together.
|Look! No cameras and phones!|
We also chose to ask our guests to put their cameras away (before it was fashionable) to let the professionals do their work. This initially created an appreciable amount of consternation amongst our guests, but we stood firm, because we knew people would thank us later (and they did) for enabling them as a guest cohort to pay attention as one and engage with us as we made our vows. It was wonderful to look out and see faces, not the backs of phones or into a camera lens. This also let us totally control what photos ended up on the net; there were no Instagram filtered blurry shots of our wedding popping up before we made it back down the aisle, or tagged on other people's feeds. Hence quite a few of these images have never been seen outside our family/friends circle until now. This was the one big expense of our wedding, costing much more than everything else combined - the photographer. We asked her to name her price, and we paid it.
Overall it was a relaxed day with few surprises except an AWOL cake-topper and the fact that I actually fit into my dress on the day after starving myself for three months (middle-aged spread).
|Our mothers were our witnesses|
|All the guests|
It was once said –
Love one another but let there be spaces in your togetherness,
and let there be winds of the heavens dance between you.
But make not a bond of love,
let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Give one another your bread but eat not from the same loaf,
Sing and dance together and be joyous but let each of you be alone.
Even as the strings of a lute are alone
though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of life can contain your hearts,
And stand together yet not too near together,
for the pillars of the temple stand apart and
the oak and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadows.
|Michaela and Deb and the compulsory selfie|
So thank you Danny for six inspiring years of marriage and the multi-faceted journey that life continues to lead us on. You'll find me waiting for my three kisses: one to make up for the years before we met, one for today, and one for our tomorrows still to come.